Mom and Dad are two fundamental figures in our lives. In transgenerational therapy, therapists observe in depth how our relationships with both parents are, how we place ourselves within the family system with respect to them, and if we accept, love, and fully take them as they are, or if, on the contrary, we judge and reject them.
As we all know, we are the result of the union of our mom and dad, and it is thanks to both of them that we have life. Half of me comes from my mother, and the other half comes from my father.
From our parents, we receive not only genetic information such as physical characteristics but also their beliefs, values, and everything we learn from them. When we take the time to understand this, we are confronted with questions such as:
- Who were our parents?
- What did they do or leave undone along the way?
- How do we perceive them now that we have become adults, and what do we experience from this place?
- How much pain am I still carrying?
- How am I relating, and what kind of relationship do I have today as an adult?
- Am I still a child, or do I consider myself an adult?
We all inwardly desire to be at peace with ourselves and with life. To achieve this, we must accept our parents and love them exactly as they are, with all their perfect imperfections.
According to transgenerational therapy, to reach this understanding and the desired peace, we must acknowledge our origins and open our hearts to our history. In doing so, we can heal wounds from the past and build healthier relationships where each family member lovingly takes their rightful place in the family tree.
In this beautiful process of acceptance and understanding, we must let go of the idea that things could have been different from the way they have been and are. Accepting and seeing things as they are leads to natural forgiveness and opens the door to full freedom… it connects us to our hearts.